Setting own standards is an extremely arduous process, especially for young people like us. Many of us are sloppy decision-makers because most of the times it was the adults’ choices that were the wisest. It is hardly news that university students fall into confusion due to a suddenly given freedom. As soon as we reach the age of 20, we get thrown into a society like a child lost in the woods. Be that as it may, the story of how parents sheltered us too much is more than worn out. It is the same old excuse we give everytime we make mistakes. The fact is, you are an adult and you need a backbone to your choices.
I, too, lived a life of invertebrate myself, so I might not be the right person to give advice on setting standards. My mind was delirious with rich, yet poor ideas from here and there. The inconvenience of depending on others’ opinions grew as time passed by and so did my insecurity. This became an immense problem as a student reporter who needed to make edgy decisions, so I had to fix it immediately. My personality could also have colluded in my indecisiveness, but it was a drawback that needed tuning altogether either way.
What I did was quite simple. Because I was desperate to find my own gravity again, I began shutting out unnecessary voices. I put aside my wavering mind to read between the lines and judged the listed facts only. It was hard at first and it still is challenging to be completely keen. However, slowly yet steadily, I began to find myself again.
The self-training became especially handy when I came across the school-related conflicts such as the issue of Dream Path. My past hesitant self would have been lopsided and seen only a portion of the problem. But I was no longer that person. I did not sway from one side to another but analyzed the issue in a neutral perspective. As I held on to myself as hard as possible, I was able to spot the problems that I could have easily missed. I was moving on from a hopelessly credulous person to a more critical being.
As a journalism student, I hear from a lot of professors emphasizing the necessity to see beyond what is written in papers. There is still a lot of room for all of us to learn as we are still students. It takes a lot of sweat to ascertain the truth. It takes time and efforts to build our own standard. The journey to achieve it, therefore, must be made while we are still in the learning boundary.
In a day, you make countless choices. As soon as you get up from your bed in the morning, you decide if you should drink water first or wash your face. Later in the day, you hesitate between studying in the library or chilling out with your friends. No matter how small or big your choices are, they depend on the standards you have set, so every decision made each day must be carefully thought through several times. The habitual choices that are casually made compose who we become in the future. Self-determined choices will become a building block of your standard that you can rely on in the future.
Lee So-young email@example.com
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