When I become an university student, I thought that I was totally free as if I had escaped from a jail because in highschool I couldn't spend any spare time to enjoy myself. I had to go to my class at 7:00 in the morning, and I came back home at 1:00 in the new-morning(mind you, I was not that eager to study though, simply every highschool student was just like that).
So imagine how much I was happy. The twenty years old GIRL was ready to bloom and looking forward to having some great event which had happened only for adults. However, nothing happened. Nobody showed me where I had to go. I recognized that I was losing my goal. In highschool, entering a good university was my all and I had been running for it but what was the next? I'd hardly ever thought about that question and they made me like that. Everytime they told me to do something or not to do something, so that had been my standard for judgement. I was not used to making a decision by myself.
Because of that reason, my university life was totally messed. Nobody stopped my over freedom like absent every classes or doing nothing before an exam. I knew that I was wrong but my mind didn't work with my head. I was a sponge which was holding a lot of overflowed time.
But things are changed after I took a trip for a long time. Last year, I was staying in England for 6 months. I didn't have any friends or relatives in there so that nobody helped me whatever happened. So I had to learn how to live by myself and I wanted to make it as a turning point of my life. At first I tried getting along with a stranger then making him my friend. I always had been groupted in highschool so that was not very easy to me.
But through this process, I could throw away my fear that I always had whenever I met a new friend. And for a conversation with native speakers, I had to study very hard, otherwise I couldn't do anything that I wanted. So I started to study without mu parents' or my teacher's pressure for the first time.
This semester is the first one that I have after my trip and now I feel like I become a freshman again. But this time, I'm not a GIRL. I think for the first time that I become a real twenty something.
Travelling is just one example to be and independent adult. What I want to say is that we have to spend some time by ourselves. It can be a part time job to have a chance for economic independence or having a lunch alone to open your mind so that you can meet lots of new people.
If we want to stay under our parents' arms, we'll still be boys or girls even after 10 or 20 years. At that point, university life is a period to prepare to be an independent adult. We should move according to our own decision and be alone to learn how to mke my way by myself.
To be an energetic and independent twenty something, try having a chance to be alone.
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